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Helping My Son Make America Great… (again?)

Dr. Melissa Crum • September 28, 2016

I often discuss current events with my 10-year-old. He listens to NPR with me on the way to school (maybe half listens). We recently discussed protests by Colin Kaepernick and other athletes of various ages. He has decided to join the protest by sitting during the pledge at school. This is how I explained protesting to him.

Identifying the problem

Imagine you are in the cafeteria at school and there is a sign that says “Everybody Gets a Healthy Free Lunch!” After some time at school, you notice that the kids in your class get molded eggplant and water for lunch (he hates eggplant). And the kids in the other class get organic veggies and grass-fed meat from Chipotle (he loves Chipotle).

Identify discrepancy in promise and implementation

You realize that the school is defining “healthy meal” differently for each class. You go to the principal and tell her that your class is not getting the same kind of “healthy meal” as the other class and you want to change it. She tells you that all the meals are healthy, nothing is going to change, and you shouldn’t tell her what to do in her school.

Alternative challenges to authority

After talking to teachers and cafeteria workers, you realize that the people in authority are not able or willing to help you. You decide to bring attention to the gross lunches your class is getting and how it isn’t fair. So you decide to stop eating them. You get your molded eggplants then throw them in the trash. You talk with your friends about the lunches the other class is getting and how the school isn’t providing everybody with a healthy lunch like the sign says. You ask them to join you in your protest. This is community organizing. Your entire class agrees to join you in not eating the lunches. You even get some kids that are eating Chipotle to throw away their food in protest to support you. This is a hunger strike.

Putting pressure on authorities

You call the news and tell them about your hunger strike. You ask them to tell the whole city about the food you are getting. You tell your principal that you and your classmates will continue to throw away the food until you get the same organic veggies and grass-fed meat from Chipotle like the other class. Parents, teachers, and neighbors hear about the hunger strike on the news. A lot of people are angry – even the kids from the other class getting the good food. Parents threaten to take their kids out of school. Students from both classrooms are throwing away their food. The school is losing money. The principal doesn’t like what is happening, so she decides to change the menu. But in the real world, rarely does everyone get Chipotle. Usually, the eggplant eaters just get better eggplant or a different moldy vegetable.

Kind of like America 13th-netflix-documentary-poster n slavery. Technically, after the Civil War slavery ended. But, the 13th amendment in the constitution says it’s ok to make criminals slaves. Companies built prisons and police patrolled Black and Brown communities a lot. They also gave Black people longer prison sentences for the same crimes as Whites. Companies would make the prisoners work for little or no money and sell the stuff they made, then make a lot of money. So…
not Chipotle, just a different moldy vegetable.

 

 

 

 

Different kinds of protests

There are  many people who have chosen to go on hunger strikes in order to make laws or policies fair.  Mahatma Gandhi, trained as a lawyer, went on several hunger strikes lasting anywhere from six days to three weeks to change laws in India and stop wars between Hindus and Muslims.  Cesar Chavez d idn’t eat for 25-days in order to fight for farmers to get better pay.

Boycotts

Sometimes protesters tell their friends about the problem and they march to get people’s attention. Once they get people’s attention, they tell them why they are angry and what they want to be different.  It’s kind of like Chavez learned the grocery store should be paying them $100 for the lettuce that they grew and picked but the store is only paying them $5. So, Chavez called his friends and his friends called their friends and told everyone to walk in the middle of downtown. They held signs that told everyone not to buy lettuce. This type of protest is called a boycott. The grocery store now has all this lettuce it wants to sell, but can’t because everyone is listening to Chavez and his friends. So the boycott encourages the grocery store to pay Chavez and his friends the fair amount.

Riots/Rebellions

There was a time when people would get in trouble for being gay. They could be arrested, have their penises removed, parts of their brain removed, or placed in an insane asylum and electrocuted. There was some people that got tired of being harassed so they decided to riot or rebel. An example is what happened at Stonewall.

 

Self harm

Buddhist monks protested the Vietnam War by setting themselves on fire. This occurred many times in public places.

Work strikes

Right now, there is a prison strike. About 20,000 prisoners across the country figured out a way to talk with their friends (community organizing) and tell everyone that they should not go to work on September 9th. They are not only protesting the new approach to slavery (because they are working for for-profit companies inside the prison) but also a bunch of other things See video discussion

 

Everyone of these examples are people choosing to challenge a promise. Just like the cafeteria said “everyone gets a free healthy lunch,” the pledge of allegiance promises “liberty and justice for all.” Just like one class was getting molded eggplant and another was getting Chipotle, but the principal said  everyone was getting a healthy lunch as promised, some people don’t believe that everyone is getting liberty and justice equally… as promised.

Colin Kaepernick has chosen to sit down in protest against police brutality. Just like you, people saw the videos of Tamir Rice, Philando Castile, Eric Garner, Keith Scott, Oscar Grant,  Terence Crutcher and many other men and women and decided to join him. You can love your country and not love some of the things it’s doing.  The great part of a democracy is that the people who have been made promises have the ability to call out the people who made those promises, but are not fulfilling them. That’s freedom of speech. That’s the “liberty” the pledge says we have. You can choose to join the protest alone. You can choose to community organize.  You can choose to approach this however you’d like. You have my support. But you have to know why you are sitting. You have to have an answer when someone asks you why.

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”
-Gandhi

 

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Dear Northstar Cafe, On Jun 15, 2020, The Columbus Dispatch informed us that 50 protesters held a sit-in at your Short North location. It was an opportunity to offer ways Northstar might use its sphere of influence to address police brutality, such as removing your police discount, supporting frontline service workers with a physical tip jar, and requiring company-wide anti-racist training. Because you are my favorite restaurant, I became interested in what you are saying about people who look like me, a Black person. The sit-in protest came after you posted this message on your Instagram page : We stand with the Black community. We stand against police brutality. We stand committed to amplifying the voices of our Black colleagues and working alongside them to dismantle systemic racism in the restaurant industry and in our communities. Your pain, your voices, and your lives matter. Your statement reminded me of the words of Nona Jones , who is a Black woman, pastor and Head of Global Faith Partnerships at Facebook. Jones asked a colleague to explain what was meant when they said they “stand in solidarity” with her. She stated her colleague “made the mistake of confusing proximity with solidarity… Going from proximity to solidarity requires going from feeling to action.” Are you educating yourself for the purpose of mobilizing your influence and resources in the direction of change? In the case of the protestors at Northstar, they were peacefully demanding that you prove that you knew the difference between proximity and solidarity. Although the murder of George Floyd and Breonna Taylor gained national attention and shed light on state-sanctioned violence, the issue of police brutality isn’t new for Columbus. In 1999, the U.S. Justice Department sued the Columbus Police Department , accusing it of a pattern of civil rights abuses that included excessive force, false arrests and improper searches. Twenty years later, a study conducted by an external company found that CPD uses force disproportionately against minorities . If you believe that the request for the permanent dismissal of the police discount is about not allowing police to only spend $7 for a Northstar Burger instead of $14 you are missing the point. I was once asked “if a small percentage of looting rioters discredits the entire movement, then what does a small percentage of bad cops do?” If the issue is ridding CPD of a “few bad apples” then how long are those most impacted by those apples supposed to wait? How do you differentiate community support for “good” vs “bad” police officers who come into your restaurant? The question isn’t the presence of “good” police officers. There are plenty (depending on how you define “good”). What is being asked of you is why are you supporting a law enforcement system that allows the bad apples to thrive? How do you define a “good” officer if the system doesn't require those doing harm to be held accountable? Discounts are your sphere of influence. Keeping them is a way of saying that you are complicit with the law enforcement institution causing harm to your employees, patrons, and fellow human beings, even those who you may never meet. Therefore, you want to make it clear that you do not support an institution that doesn’t seek to protect and serve everyone. The removal of the discount, along with the other demands, asks you to use your sphere of influence. Your influence can demonstrate that until an institution that has proven to be oppressive to Black people fix themselves so that we can know that the “bad apples” are being held accountable for their action, then you are not willing to offer support. This position is important because we don’t know if you are discounting the meals of abusive officers and their enablers. After I posted the June 15th article on my social media, I received numerous messages from Black friends and strangers telling me about their negative and scary experiences working for Northstar and Brassica (both under the same ownership). Companies can't make sincere public statements about standing with Black people when the ones in closest proximity are saying that you are standing on their necks . The statement is not only ironic, its gaslighting. Be honest . Honesty could be that the owners are more interested in profit over people. Or honesty could be acknowledging the harm you’ve caused directly or allowed to happen to your employees who are members of the Black community and those who support us. Accountability is required. That might be beyond what you budgeted for and it will likely be uncomfortable. But whatever you choose to do to actually stand in solidarity won’t include a public statement because you have demonstrated that you have no intent to follow through with actionable steps. So, Northstar, I need you to reflect. I need you to consider and choose to make these shifts. Not only because I don’t want to have to find another restaurant to make my ricotta pancakes and hot cider made with whipped cream of the perfect consistency, but because people shouldn’t have their dehumanization be justified by the goal of sustaining high profit margins. They shouldn’t have to feel like they have to remind their employers of their humanity while they are trying to keep their job to survive.
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